Does the whole “5 signs to see his just not that into you” really work??😂😂

Allow the person and the timing to be right, accept the process...Re- Learn what we we’re taught, it could be a lie keeping you from experiencing something great…

Damn, there are so many pages and blogs about how women should be able to pick up that a man is not good for you or is really just not that into you- more and more man have actually taken the opportunity to flux this industry of advising woman about what them as “man” do or don’t do if they like or don’t like a woman.most of which I won’t lie I used to follow at some point like the Bible at some point 😅.But what people forget is life is not a setting stone, what worked for X won’t work for Y, and sometimes the everything Y didn’t love about X is exactly what Z loves about X.

Think about it,think of your exes, aren’t they with someone else, aren’t they happier , or are they miserable because it did work out with you?Do they not deserve love, do they not get to be happy without you, did their life stop when you broke up.

I’m sure the answer is aligned with that they are doing just fine.And it’s okay because you know irrespective of how badly they may have treated you at the end - you probably know they are not(all) bad people, they just did bad by you at a given point in time.They may be good people, but that doesnt make them good for you.

Let Go

The things you didn’t like , maybe they had outgrown before meeting the other person, maybe the other person was better at teaching them what they wanted instead of your shouting and nagging manner, either way.. there are a lot of good people whom are not good with you.and that’s okay.

So what if you foll the 5 signs he is not into you, does it then make you an expert and make you immune to being hurt, should we treat it as a manual, because to my knowledge this life thing has no manual , love, dating and relationships have no manual .

One persons experience and view points does not create a template for everyone. You may not meet your spouse the way your friend did, the traits others enjoy in you may annoy the next persons. Truth is everyone is a bad person to someone. You have hurt someone, you will hurt someone. You have those traits and are capable to do those things that are said indicate someone is not interested does. No one is perfect, you have bad days, you do bad things , you are emotionally unavailable some days and you may come across to someone as something you are not.

In high school I remember my venda teacher saying-“Ni dzhie tshifhinga u mu divha ”, she emphasised and said it in English- “Take time to know them”,.

The same patience, understanding you need, is the same you need to give.

Now there are clear red flags that I’m not saying ignore, but what I have learned is that there is no- one person you can really say you know.whether it is in weeks,months or even years, and I say this referring to my own journey of learning myself too, I sometimes surprise myself, so best believe it will take time for someone to understand me let alone know me. You are forever taking a risk when choosing to love someone, but take a calculated risk, jumping and taking a leap of faith is and will be required in any relationship.

Being wise is needed in identifying suitability in a relationship, but rules and pre- ampt ideas and signs off doom may be the very reason the single remain single.

Is it that you have really never met someone you could be best fit with for 30 years Khuthi, or perhaps you juat have never given anyone enough time and chance to be, and you be with them.

Are the signs you are afraid of seeing not the very signs you potentially give off out of fear of being hurt.

if 5 reasons he is not just that into you was really helpful, why have there been more unsuccessful relationships in our generation than before all this influencers came and started influencing ideas of how people should be to be accepted.

For a guy who is just bad with calling, who can even go for a week not calling his mom, does that guy not deserve to be understood and loved. Could it be he is really just bad with calling and him not calling you is not about how much he isn’t into you but how much he isn’t into calling.

Moral of the story, forget the signs, forget what was done to you, forget your perfect ideas and expectations- simply be, and the right people will come, don’t get me wrong even the wrong ones will come, but surely we can’t judge by just signs and theories.

Allow the person and the timing to be right, accept the process, even in a relationship you still need to renew your thinking, yesterday i did something a certain way because i felt a certain way, don’t assume if i am acting the same way its due to the same feeling.Assumptions and conclusions have killed many relationships both romantic and friendships.

Stop trying to be God

You can’t cram humans, you can’t control humans and you can’t predict and assume

Even God does not use this basis with us, that's why He says ask for whatever you want in my name “massive paraphrase” yet He knows our thoughts, He knows what we need before we ask . BUT yet He still says ask, why??Just cause you thought it doesn’t mean you really mean it, want it or wish for it😉

Give people a chance, understand why they are the way they are, we come from different backgrounds, we have different interests,so why let somebody be a relationship expert of your life- be open minded and find your love story, make it your own and grow.

Trust me this is more for myself than anyone else, its a process growing up, its hard sometimes, because it’s easier to hold on to what is familiar. BUT what if what is familiar is what has been killing you??

The only signs in relationships to be enjoyed, is that on the road on your next vacation, Live , Love & Travel.

we will find our way to the people we are meant to meet and we will no longer self sabotage out of fear of biased opinions that as truly no one size fits all. Identify for yourself what your fit is. I mean when you buy a shoe- you ask for your size & still put your foot in to confirm it is the right fit, what more with people.

Are people really that simple to reduce to 5 signs they are just not that into you ??🤔

~ Re-Journey

with Magic